I fear for my mother.
Aug. 27th, 2010 11:53 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
sarasvatiFor once, this is a post about my mother that doesn't involve her being a complete psycho. This is actually me fearing for her wellbeing right now.
She was invited to a wedding tomorrow. My father's friend (let's call him D) is apparently getting married tomorrow, and invited my mother to it... today. D did not invite my father, though he and my father are more friends than he and my mother. The wedding is a very informal affair, at his house (which is about 2 hours drive away), with very few guests. He offered to drive my mother there and back, and if he ends up drinking and can't drive her back, he said she's welcome to sleep in his camp trailer that he just bought.
And with each word she said to me, more alarm bells went off in my head.
D used to hit on my mother in creepy ways, like constantly inviting her for coffee at night, but never in the day. He's known for being very flighty with women. I believe he was engaged to one woman while seeing somebody else, and I think this wedding is to a third woman that nobody knew about until a few days ago.
Quite frankly, I'm worried about her. She's placing herself in the hands of a philanderer who established in the past that he wants to get with her, relying on him for transport to and from a shotgun wedding to an unknown woman. Inviting her but not her ex-husband, whom is supposedly better friends with, just makes me edgy.
I told her I had a bad feeling about it. I told her why. She can at least appreciate my concerns, and she said she'll be careful, but she's a small and pliant woman more apt to get raped and not report it than to fight back with any real effort. She said if things go sour she'd hitchhike home, and that's not much of a better option. (I told her that if things turned sour that way she should call the police, make a report, and ask them to drive her back home. She seemed leary of that option.)
I ended the conversation by telling her that if he tried anything with her, I'd castrate him. It's very likely I mean that. It's very likely I'll have a small group of people helping me out, because even though some of my friends dislike my mother, they dislike people being taken advantage of even more.
The whole situation is suspicious to me, and I don't think I'll be able to relax until I get a message from her telling me she's safely back in the city and that nothing happened.
She was invited to a wedding tomorrow. My father's friend (let's call him D) is apparently getting married tomorrow, and invited my mother to it... today. D did not invite my father, though he and my father are more friends than he and my mother. The wedding is a very informal affair, at his house (which is about 2 hours drive away), with very few guests. He offered to drive my mother there and back, and if he ends up drinking and can't drive her back, he said she's welcome to sleep in his camp trailer that he just bought.
And with each word she said to me, more alarm bells went off in my head.
D used to hit on my mother in creepy ways, like constantly inviting her for coffee at night, but never in the day. He's known for being very flighty with women. I believe he was engaged to one woman while seeing somebody else, and I think this wedding is to a third woman that nobody knew about until a few days ago.
Quite frankly, I'm worried about her. She's placing herself in the hands of a philanderer who established in the past that he wants to get with her, relying on him for transport to and from a shotgun wedding to an unknown woman. Inviting her but not her ex-husband, whom is supposedly better friends with, just makes me edgy.
I told her I had a bad feeling about it. I told her why. She can at least appreciate my concerns, and she said she'll be careful, but she's a small and pliant woman more apt to get raped and not report it than to fight back with any real effort. She said if things go sour she'd hitchhike home, and that's not much of a better option. (I told her that if things turned sour that way she should call the police, make a report, and ask them to drive her back home. She seemed leary of that option.)
I ended the conversation by telling her that if he tried anything with her, I'd castrate him. It's very likely I mean that. It's very likely I'll have a small group of people helping me out, because even though some of my friends dislike my mother, they dislike people being taken advantage of even more.
The whole situation is suspicious to me, and I don't think I'll be able to relax until I get a message from her telling me she's safely back in the city and that nothing happened.
